Oct 2[3 or 8] 1954
Manners
The road to life Criminals
Good hearts – yet brutality
My holiday
Lyward’s school moderate delinquents
But they are all basically the same as we are.
What we did at Finchden [Manor]–
Our impressions
Good manners
Good morning
What is the point of good manners?
Ease provides a convention
Who goes first etc
Creation if good relationships
Shows the way
(it can be false – a hiding)
Think of yourself at a meeting - a party – a conference
A good mannered welcome – introduction
Value as a habit – not having to think it out every time.
Offering seats in a bus
The sports girl etc
The old - the tired
The pregnant
The overloaded
Not only women
Best - being observant – but the next best thing is habit.
Foundation of good manners is good feeling towards people – interest in them.
But rules have always been necessary (Israelites and strangers)
Children and adults
Visitors – strangers come first
What do we do with a visitor?
Ask name
Appointment
Sit down
Going through doors, etc.
Preceding or otherwise in corridors
Guests (last night at supper)
Nothing wrong with girls! – but the crowd!.
Hence the RULE.
But must be observant because of effect of the crowd (“someone else will do it”)
Good manners among yourselves. You cant really live in two worlds.
If you are foul to each other your manners toward staff will be insincere.
We have a good reputation –
Based too much on girls? I don’t know.
Archive reference PP/KCB 373 document 21